I owe ex ongoing alimony and c/s but she owes me assorted split expenses - how can I get what she owes me?

Never off-set c/s or alimony from what you think you are owed. Child Support Recovery and the IRS will hunt you down. Go back to court and prove what you are owed. It sounds like you could do this in the divorce case.

Should I give her a chance?

You sound like a douche. You're trying to decide if you want to date this girl but one of the reasons why you don't want to is because she's fat and guys don't like her? But one of the reasons why you would is because she gives you sex whenever you want it? That's shallow and I feel sorry for her for even being attracted to you.

Do you agree with these Zodiac Stereotypes?

No evidence for the stereotyping astrology must make to be astrology. It is a discrimination, just like racism and sexism. No one chooses when to be born.

What happens if you're raised to the wrong religion or aren't sure.?

Just curious because there are three huge monotheistic faiths with almost the same ideals, the only significant difference is their messiah. Also, I think I am a kind person with strong morals but I can't say either way whether there is or isn't a god, so am I going to be tortured for all eternity because of this?

What song is this?? Heeeelp?

I can't remember the lyrics but the video starts with a man waking up in the morning, and every thing's colourful and childlike. Then he goes in this car with his friends, and there driving to a carnival and theres a purple dog in the car. And it's like 'dont, dont you know, dont you go, no no no noo' I dont remember but its awesome. Help please (=

Is the NFL HOF Polluted?

I feel like there are a lot of deserving guys left out & a lot of guys who should be out are in. For instance I think Marv Levy & Bud Grant deserve to be in but why not Dan Reeves? He had more wins than the other 2. Why Troy Aikman & Terry Bradshaw but not John Hadl & Boomer Esiason? If you ask me the HOF is losing it's luster once you put a babysitter QB like Aikman in there. Anybody else agree?

Compromising or Settling for a man... Serious Commentary Only?

I recently hung out with an old friend who is now engaged...GO GIRL!!! Yes, this was our screaming, slap happy moment after countless failed relationships and just BS in general. We're both almost 30 (28 to be exact), and with events like ten-year class reunions (to remind us we are not so young anymore-not OLD- but not young either) I personally have started reevaluating my benchmark goals. I was never the girl dreaming about her wedding ring...I dreamed about the first pair of Jimmy Choo's I'd wear to my first board meeting. I wanted to develop ME and be the best me before becoming one with someone else. Don't get me wrong, I did want the complete American dream with the $100K+/year career, house, husband, 2.5 children, dog, and brick red (not white, brick red) picket fence and eggshell/pearl Escalade. I've always been modest in what I want in a man as well as life. I do want to love him, get along with him, have fun with him, worship with him, and for the sake of pro-creating, be attracted to him physically. Living in Atlanta, Ga there are about 12 women for every one man; and with half the men here being homosexual, it's really like 24:1 women:men). The "straight" men have become a hot commodity, and they generally act as if they are oil. The result is the beautiful, successful, intelligent, and sweet women generally lower their standards, take abuse/mistreatment that should not be tolerated, are terribly insecure, and utterly desperate. Yet, there are some who find a balance. Like my friend who is now engaged. She admitted that typically, her fiance is not what she would go for, or what she necessarily WANTS, but she is adamant that when it comes to what she NEEDS in a man, he fits the bill. Apparently, she isn't attracted to him, but he has qualities she likes. I've witnessed her in love before- and she wasted no time professing it though it was already obvious. She said she loves her fiance, yet I wonder if it is a fondness of one who makes you feel safe, and not the love shared between lovers. I wondered, has she compromised on what's more important (prioritized what she desires in a man) or has she, like many other women, settled for what she could get. If she, formerly being so much more picky than I am, has settled, then I really don't know what my chances are finding what I want without having to settle. I don't expect Vin Diesel or Tyrese with money like Bill Gates and a sexual prowess that puts Casanova to shame - but I do expect most of what I want in a man and I should be most of what he wants. I would never want someone to settle for me because I was a safe bet - I actually want to be desired and wanted. I want to give my man the same. Yet, every woman I know that has recently married, or that is getting married, has had to lower her standards and give up on the notion of being in love. Especially in the minority community where a significant number of our young, fully equipped men are in prison, gay, addicted to drugs, and/or disheartedly unemployed quitters (those who won't try anymore). Is it a fairy tale to add "love" and "attraction" to the list that qualifies a potential mate; unrealistic to believe that every qualified, deserving woman will be able to find a qualified, deserving man? The qualifications are case-by-case of course (there should ideally be someone for everyone, no matter what the type or preferences are). Being the mother of a pre-teen who herself desires to see me in a relationship, and after putting so much into her and trying to pursue my career dreams (and that yielding no fruit in light of the recent recession) - being in a healthy relationship is starting to become more and more important to me. I'm not anxious or desperate, but I am concerned. I still have hope...